Date Your Spouse

The other day Calvin asked me what I was doing on Saturday. I told him, “I’m not sure. Are you asking me out?!?!” And he said, “ If you want to go hunting with me…”  Needless to say, Saturday, after getting up at 4 AM, we went hunting. It was cold, uncomfortable, and we had to be quiet. Not exactly the ideal date, but we were doing something my husband was excited about and that made it worth it. I had never been hunting like that before so I thought I should at least try it. It was definitely not the most fun I’ve ever had, but I could see how much Calvin liked it. 

We’ve been married for a year this month. I can’t believe it’s gone so fast! Throughout this year I have learned so many things! Including, that it is so important to continue to date your spouse.

So when dating your spouse here are some things we all need to remember:

1.    Bring an open mind- It may not be exactly what you had in mind, but if he enjoys it, it’s at least worth a try.

2.     Take pictures- Not only are they fun to share on social media, but they are also a good reminder of times together. I may not be sentimental with things, but I do enjoy looking at pictures of times with my husband, our dates, wedding day, etc. It is fun to reminisce, especially with those you love.

3.     Make the most of it- I guess this kind of goes along with the first one. But even if it’s not something you may exactly choose to do, make the most of it. Instead of having a bad attitude when it's something you wouldn't have chosen to do, try to be open-minded. When looking back, I find the memories will be better and less regrettable.

4.     Communication- I am a firm believer that life in general, is just better when people communicate, especially husbands and wives. People can get into the routine of life and expect the other person to know exactly what they are thinking, then arguments happen, feelings get hurt, and grudges occur. But most of the time, these can all be avoided with communication.

We may be married and live together now, but that still doesn’t change the fact that we need to have that time that is set aside for just the two of us without the rest of life's distractions. Sitting at home on the couch and watching Amazon together and is fine, but if we don’t take the time to talk and continue to get to know each other, we will drift apart. I am so glad Calvin and I both try to be intentional with our time together. And I hope that you will be too, not only in marriage but in other relationships too.

We didn't get anything that morning... And will I ever go hunting with him again? Time will tell. Maybe if he asks nicely. 😉 But it WAS a beautiful morning!  (Also, if you can zoom in on the bottom picture there are six deer we saw outlined against the sky. So pretty!!)